What bothers me about it isn't wanting to have one, it's that the vast majority of the people picking ornaments from the tree can't afford to buy them, either. It's basically creating a situation where no one is happy because the kids won't get the gifts they want and the people trying to do something nice are made to feel shitty because they're being asked for presents that they couldn't afford to buy for their own kids, let alone someone else's. I wanted to do something nice for someone and I was put in a position where I couldn't because they chose to ask for something unreasonable without offering an alternative.