I am (sort of) in the boat as some of the above posters. I am sitting here, at one moment certain that I never experienced what you wrote about or anything even remotely close, and in the other trying to reevaluate every interaction to see if I just blew something off or accepted it as "part of life."

But, I am glad that you wrote about this experience, and that it adds to the voices that say it's not acceptable. I do believe if we keep talking about it, eventually people will understand that it's not okay. So, thank you.